Warning: Long, & Rant...You do not want to read this!

[Charaxes]

This is just something I wanted to get of my chest, so if no one posts to it, or if it get deleted, whatever...

I've been on this site for quite a while (over a year), and some things have been bugging me lately. Mostly, it's the way poeple post here. I know I'm not the most popluar guy here (####, probably not even in the top 100), but it annoys me when I open a thread and no one replies to it just because they don't recognize my screen name. Now, it could be that they don't have anything to say on the subject, but I have posted something, and it would be up for a few days, and it would get no replies, and fall by the wayside. Then, a few days later, someone else would post something close to my thread, but for some reason their thread get 100's of replies. Also, there will be times where I help with team building, or post something on a topic, and it would seem as if I had never posted it; everyone ignores it. Of all the threads I've started, only two have gotten more than 50 posts. I realize that I never tried to "make friends" here, and that I don't really post all that often, compared to some of the "popular members", but does that make my opinions invalid, does it make make input any less helpful? I work nearly 30 hours a week (in a job not accessing a computer, let alone the internet, so I can't post there), in school full time and that takes up most of my time. I know I've said some stupid things in my time here, and very well could have offended many members as well. Every time I was made known that I directly offended someone, I humbly apoligized. I know how this sounds, but it is mostly based on the fact that it is hard enough to be ignored in real life, but it is intolerable to be ingored on the web, as well. To understand, you would really have to know me, and my past.

To give a little of understanding, I'll recap my life. I've never had many friends growing up, and most of my life so far have been depressing and sad. My dad left me at a releatively young age, and basically blames all of his problems on me, and tells me that I bring all the bad in my life on myself. I've haven't seen or heard from him in two years. In the last two years I've been fired from three different jobs, and it takes months to find I new one.I just had my 20th birthday, a couple of months ago, and I am the stereotypical "comic book geek". I still live in my mom's basement, and totally depend on her for everything. I racked up $1000 in credit debt and desperately trying to clear my credit, so I'm saving no money at all. As well, I have never had a serious relationship in my life. Basically, very few people truly know me, and the ones that do ran away from me. Pretty, I've lived alone since I was 16, as my mom has practically moved out to live with her boyfriend. Quite frankly, I hit rock bottom years ago, and have been struggling with many problems. I am not wishing for pity, I just wish to share my story, it seems to help. Basically, the theme of my life is when I need someone the most, I find myself alone. I have gone to a pyshologist, and it helped alot. I am now trying to pull my life together, I'm doing alot better, but I still find myself alone when need someone the most.

Also, I admitt of being guilty of this, as well. I always click on the threads started by Shin-Goji, thugit, and the other "well-known" members of this site. I guess you can say that I'm jealous of these members, for being everything I wish I could be.

I realize that this sounds incredibly bitter, and, well, I guess I am. To those who have read this, I'm sorry for wasting your time. To the mods, if you feel that this needs to be deleted, I understand.

I know that this is probably going to be either deleted by the mods or replaced by the "Join my Clan" threads that pop up daily. I just wanted to say something, and to give a better understanding of myself.

If you have anything to say to me, I would like your honest opinions. If you don't know me, or something, and don't feel the need to post, don't worry about it. Like I said, I'm not doing this for pity, or an ego-boost. It helps me to share my story, and I feel better just getting this out there.

For those who sat through of this rambling, thank you.

[Ro-gan]

Dude, I feel for you, I do.

The best way to become "One of the Gang" is to just keep posting when you are able. If you consistently post positive/funny/intelligent things then you will stand out.

I don't know you personally, but I do see your ID (Charaxes) posted quite frequently on other Threads.

BTW:

What does Charaxes stand for? Just curious.

And don't feel there might be something wrong with you because you saw a psychologist. They are actually quite helpful and popular lately.

[Teletran]

Hey, don't feel bad. Not everyone would be a shin-goji, azs, herocomplex or other big time realmers like brother magneto.

Posting here has never been about popularity. It's simply if you got something to say and if someone else has a reply. (just like what I'm doing now)

My suggestion? Don't take this "ignoring your threads" seriously at all. Maybe it would just help you get more replies if your post is a topic everyone needs to talk about. Other than that, there's no point to want a lot of replies for nothing.

I mean, look at the Philippines discussion thread. That's one of the longest threads ever cause all the Filipino realmers post there and a community is built. It wasn't because we posted a rant, a trade request, or were just plain hanging out. We use that thread for everything!!! The most important of course is news on tournies so we can all meet and get to play. That's what it is about.

You'll also see lots of "trash talking" there. :cheeky: That's just us friends joking around with each other.

So again, it wasn't because the one who started it was popular. But only because that specific thread had a specific role to play.

Cheers and hope you never think that people are avoiding you or anything like that.

[skyounkin]

Dang you're right.......

I didn't want to read it.:ermm:

But I did, mores the pity.

I hoper you get your life together- being 20 DOES #### and I wouldn't want to be 20 again if someone paid me.

To young to be considered an adult with responsibility and to old to be considered "cool".........

Women, forget it, you have to watch out for the jailbait or women who want a man to provide for them -good luck.

When I needed "to find myself and place in life" I joined the Navy-Best decision I ever made in my life, before getting married and becoming a foster parent. I am NOT suggesting joining the military now, with the current plight in Iraq and Afganistan without SERIOUSLY considering the options, and I mean SERIOUSLY considering the options.

I want to tell you life gets easier but- No it's time for you to be told there is no Santa Clause and the bump you here in the middle of the night is not the Tooth Fairey it's most likely a robber stealing your old TV set to sell for crack.

BUT life becomes easier to understand and you digest carp easier as you get older......
;)

:sleep:

Hope this helps......

[Teletran]

Charaxes... now you did it. I guess you'll be receiving a number of replies on this thread of yours. ;)

[Ro-gan]

Originally posted by Teletran
Maybe it would just help you get more replies if your post is a topic everyone needs to talk about. Other than that, there's no point to want a lot of replies for nothing.


Just start a "I didn't get my Galactus at WWLA" Thread and see how many replies you get. :confused:

Please don't, though! Thankfully, all that nonsense has died down. :cheeky:

[VandalSavage]

Dude, Just Remember...If your going through Hell...Keep Going! You will get out of it eventually....As Skyounkin said above....With age things will change...And I have to say...I've seen your name on here quite a bit...but I don't reply to everything...And I have an excuse for replying to Thugit;) ....He's a friend of mine!

Mr. Savage

[IronManI]

Dont take it personally. If I had a nickel for every thread I started here that got less than 3 replys, I would have been able to buy a case of heroclix! :p :laugh: With the ammount of threads being posted here daily, its easy for one to get buried here. Sometimes people will see your thread and not register it, but it sits in the back of thier head and then post something similar. Happens all the time here. No big deal. AS for the other stuff going on in your life, I hate to tell you this, but........your pretty normal IMHO. :grin: So You live in your moms basement, big deal, if I could still live at home I would! AS for your Dad, forget him, he's just trying to cover up his faults by putting stuff on you.
So take everything that happens here with a grain of salt, watch out for the trolls, and for god's sake, stay away from KC Superman. He'll kick your teams butt! :grin: :p

[Ro-gan]

Originally posted by VandalSavage
Dude, Just Remember...If your going through Hell...Keep Going! You will get out of it eventually....As Skyounkin said above....With age things will change...

I am 34 now and I have learned Life Lesson #1:

Keep your enemies close and your friends closer. :devious:

My (soon-to-be-ex) wife of 3.5 years and I are getting divorced. I finally found out she was sleeping with someone who I thought was a good friend. It even turns out my 14 month year old son might biologically be my (ex) friend's and not mine.

*REMEMBER*

Your life might stink now, but someone else's life might be worse. ;)

[Ro-gan]

Originally posted by IronManI
So You live in your moms basement, big deal, if I could still live at home I would!

Oh, for those days when I lived at home and didn't have to pay rent/morgages.

...and for god's sake, stay away from KC Superman. He'll kick your teams butt! :grin: :p

That he will, but even better--

Last weekend my Luke Skywalker (Skywalker mod on V Shi dial) took out E Black Adam and R Doctor Fate while based to both of them at the same time. Go, Jedi... go, Jedi... it's your birthday... :cool:

[skeevo666]

Originally posted by Charaxes
. . . it annoys me when I open a thread and no one replies to it just because they don't recognize my screen name. Now, it could be that they don't have anything to say on the subject, but I have posted something, and it would be up for a few days, and it would get no replies, and fall by the wayside. Then, a few days later, someone else would post something close to my thread, but for some reason their thread get 100's of replies.


This could just be bad timing. I rarely surf the actual forums, I just scroll down to the most recent posts at the bottom of the main page. If it's an interesting topic, I'll subscribe and then know automatically when a contribution is made, never having to look for it again . . .


Originally posted by Charaxes
For those who sat through of this rambling, thank you.


It's always good to get it off yr chest . . .

[VandalSavage]

Originally posted by skeevo666
This could just be bad timing. I rarely surf the actual forums, I just scroll down to the most recent posts at the bottom of the main page. If it's an interesting topic, I'll subscribe and then know automatically when a contribution is made, never having to look for it again . . .



I do this too....The Front Page Most Recent Posts is All I really look at....The only thing I go an Look for is DTM's Vs Threads!

Mr. Savage

[Ro-gan]

Originally posted by VandalSavage
I do this too....The Front Page Most Recent Posts is All I really look at....

Me too. The only time I go to the Forum section looking for threads is when I am REALLY bored and REALLY energetic at the same time. :rolleyes:

[VandalSavage]

Originally posted by ro_gan
The only time I go to the Forum section looking for threads is when I am REALLY bored and REALLY energetic at the same time. :rolleyes:


:laugh: I Hear That!!!


Mr. Savage

[Ro-gan]

Charaxes is getting alot of responses now.

IRONY:

He creates this Thread, gets tons of responses, BUT-- forgets to Subscribe to it and NEVER knows he had created a Thread that had more responses than any other Thread he had created in the past. :laugh: :confused:

[Rocket Ranger]

You warned me. You told me this was going to be a long rant. You told me that I did not want to read this.

Yet, I did.

Hey, Charaxes, take heart! EVERYONE, and I mean every single person that has ever lived on this planet, has felt alone at some point in their life. Even those that seem happy, successful and popular have their down days. In fact, those who have surrounded themselve with friends, family, etc., sometimes do so because they can't deal with being alone or by themselves. Ultimately, we all need time to ourselves. It is this time that allows us to be introspective, to meditate, to pray if you believe, to rest and relax in the quiet peace that is found best when one finds oneself alone. And, I'm not trying to downplay any of your lonely feelings. You don't want pity, so I won't give it. However, I'm trying to encourage you in the situation you described yourself to be in.

Obviously, we are at our best when we have others to love and share life with. We all want and need those in our lives to love and love us. It sounds like your own father wasn't the best example of this, and you feel like you should have accomplished a lot more by now, or, in the very least, be doing something more with your life or have more people to do more with. Believe it or not, you're still a young guy and you truly have your whole life ahead of you. It's never too late and circumstances are never so overwhelming that you can't take steps toward the life you want to be living. I commend you for wanting to pay off your debt. That's a great start! It sounds like you've been in the working world, and that's commendable too even if you haven't had the best experience in those jobs. The nice thing about the past is, it's done and gone. It sounds corny, but the future is dependant not on the decisions you made in the past, but rather those you make right now.

Ok, that's all the "advice" I'll give ya right now. ;) Let me just add, however, that there is always someone out there who is probably worse off than you and is looking for someone to befriend as well. Again, it's another simple-soundin' saying, but "if ya want friends, ya have to show yourself to be friendly." I'm not implying that you haven't been friendly to others, but, the more you put yourself out in the world among others, the more likely you'll find those who are of like-mind, or possibly even more lonely than you. If you make it a point of your life to always be looking out for how you can help others, you'll always find someone to help. And, along the way, you might very well find some true friends. As for when you find yourself alone, I would offer some advice of a spiritual nature, but I don't want to get this thread deleted.;) Suffice it to say I believe you are never truly alone. Even in life's darkest and loneliest moments, I believe He is there for you. If ya want to chat more about this, pm me.

Now, as for your posts not being responded to as much as some others, I wouldn't take it too personally. There are so many new threads everyday about so many different, and even sometimes, similiar subjects that people just kind of surf and choose. Of course there are a few who practically live on this site and have a running discourse going with some other constant posters, but, they are obviously the minority. The majority of the members probably almost never post, and those that do occasionally aren't recognized as easily and often overlooked for those that people are familiar with. That being said, there are quite a few members and mods that make it a priority to respond to new member's threads and try to make 'em feel at home. In the end, it is those of us who aren't ol' timers or new members that are often over-looked...not out of an intention to ignore, but simply because our numbers and posts and threads and comments are ultimately overwhelming. Again, try not to take the lack of response personally. I'm sure it's not intended. I happen to think I'm a fairly funny, creative and friendly guy myself, but the list of friends in my life and # of responses to my posts on the Realms is probably not much different than yours. I am blessed with a wife and some kids, but that's actually made time for friends more scarce. Anyway, just be encouraged and know you aren't alone on this site nor are you alone in real life.

Thanks for opening up your heart and posting this, Charaxes. If nothing else, it will go that much farther in sharing a little more of who you are and where you're coming from with our community here. Openess and honesty are always a good step toward making new friends both here and in the "real world.";)

[Ro-gan]

Originally posted by ro_gan
Me too. The only time I go to the Forum section looking for threads is when I am REALLY bored and REALLY energetic at the same time. :rolleyes:

Which, I might add, is a rarer thing than a Blue Moon. :laugh:

[1164]

Life is hard, then you die. In between, there is heroclix!

[TheSpirit]

Hey Charaxes, sometimes people don't respond to threads because they couldn't possibly add anything better... so maybe your comments are just the absolute final word on the subject.

At least that's what I keep telling myself, when my threads get ignored.

But I've also been on the other side, where you're in so deep into a flame war, rapidly writing responses and hitting preview twice to make sure your comments are fully up to date, and it's draining. So sometimes getting noticed and having a lot of responses is not such a good thing.

I've noticed your name before on comments, and (unlike some others I won't name) I've never thought "geez, that guy's an idiot". I have a feeling people have a better opinion of you than you give them credit for.

[PsychoDBoy]

Heh, I feel I have the same problem on here, but I dont let it get to me. If I start a thread, it won't get many replies usually, and if I reply to a thread, it seems to die shortly thereafter unless its one of the bigguns. I just chalk it up to people bein jealous of my user ID number :laugh:

And now that I've posted here, this thread will prolly be dead soon enough.:p

[Teletran]

notice that Charaxes hasn't replied?!? Maybe he did forget about this thread and thought no one responded to his thread.

Heheh.. just kidding of course. :p

[doobie711]

Cheer up man. Life is tough sometimes. In the past 3 months i lost my grandpa due to cancer, my mom got breast cancer, my parents split up and i had to put my dog dudley that i had for 16 years to sleep. But life goes on. Sorry to hear you don't have more friends because mine helped me get through all that. If you ever want to talk pm me.

[thugit]

Don't sweat it. People are fickle, and I wouldn't want to be known like Shin and I are. (Well known doesn't equal well liked.)

I've seen your name on here plenty.... I just don't respond if it's not something that I have an opinion on. Some threads just don't strike a chord with people. Check out how many of my threads get no attention whatsoever!

Don't let an internet message board get you down. Life is far more important than a Heroclix message board.

[Drashia]

speak for youself Thugit! ;)

Plenty of threads don't get many replies, look at the Artisan's Guild for instance. Some threads I read and post no comments, either because none are warranted or simply because opinions I have on said topic are already addressed (like this one)

Do not feel discouraged, you share your stake with the "gang".

[Silver Lantern]

Man Charaxes stop depressing everyone with all this carp! ;)

Seriously though, for what it's worth I recognize your name just fine. Sometimes people just don't care about posts enough to reply, or the topics or content are just carpy. For example, the VOTE thread. I am not talking about the vs battle threads, but the "vote for what I should have for lunch today" type threads. I just don't see the point in these, so I pretty much ignore them. I cannot fathom what possible productive thing can come out of someone having people decide what army they should play on a particular day, or what tie they should wear. :)
Another thing I ignore is the clan threads, I just haven't had any interest in these at all. I got all the cliqish inner circle need out of me when I was in high school (and am I ever glad I did), and that was over a decade ago.
Fortunately for me, I can't say I indentify too much with your problems, as I have truly been blessed in life, but maybe it's just my outlook on things. I learned early on NOT to dwell on the negative. I focus on the good stuff, and that is something everyone needs to do for their own well being.
If that fails, gaming is always an escape that can clear my mind from everything else.
In any case, I hope you don't feel people don't know who you are, because clearly we do know who you are. It's just that we don't all respond to everything. As many have said, EVERYONE'S STUFF GETS IGNORED. Sometimes posting controversial or unpopular stuff gets responses (just ask Thugit). ;)
In any case, I hope you feel better, and keep working at improving yourself: do your job well, be on time, be courteous, follow the golden rule, and DO NOT use your dad as an model for how you should be with your family. Many people do that unintentionally, but be aware of it, and you can avoid it.
Hope this helps,
SL

[Superego Lad]

I used to get on MUD's (text based Multiple User Dungeons, that means no graphics young'ins) when I was in undergrad (in the days long before Everquest) mostly for the social aspect. Some of my friends from online were more supportive and understanding than my friends from "real life." Cherish the friendships that you make.

[Iceslinger]

Like others said, it is not personal. There are so many threads and things get buried quickly. There is a bit of the clique thing going too. Look at the dozens of pages of posts that "insert goofy name" clans get. it's like the commercial where the two guys say the same thing in the meeting and after the second guys says it everyone applauds and pats him on the back. The first guy says, "Hey, you just repeated my idea but you did *this* with your hands". Whatever. Some people spend a lot of time on this site and they might get "popular" but there are a lot more important things in life. Why I stand in front of my maker some day i don't think He is going to ask how many replies my posts got! John 8:50

[GoldenAge]

Originally posted by thugit
I wouldn't want to be known like Shin and I are.

Golly, neither would I!!!!! (Uber-Bat-Lover) ;)

Kid, this isn't a popularity contest. It's a community of like-minded individuals. Essentially we're all alone when we post but conversation here gives us solace that we're not.

You're not some leper, you're not alone. Just stick around, post intelligently, ask questions and respond with honesty. You'll be fine.

-GA

[thugit]

Originally posted by GoldenAge
Golly, neither would I!!!!! (Uber-Bat-Lover) ;)




Oh shut up, you geriatric old fart.


;)

[GoldenAge]

:p Thphphphphphphphphphphphphphphphph!

[eboladude]

Y'know ... Golden Age's post really does sum it all up nicely!

[thugit]

Originally posted by eboladude
Y'know ... Golden Age's post really does sum it all up nicely!

Which is a nice change of pace.



:cool:

[eboladude]

That would be Primal Raspberry Therapy.

I've got a kid going to Iraq. My mom died a month ago. My wife is insisting I leave my career of 25 years to move someplace warm or else she'll leave me. And I'm overweight. Now that we're on an even footing, sirrah - we ALL have problems. We'll commiserate when things get bad enough, however if YOU don't take responsibility for making the changes that you want in your life, no one else will. You have determine what you want to change. You have to change it. Plain and simple. Find a goal. Pursue it. Find the determination and discipline within you to reach it, because it won't happen by itself. In the end, you will either have your goals or you will have your excuses. Decide NOW which you would rather have, and get to work.

[Spyder's Web]

Dude, I had a situation like yours a while back. From the age of 12 to now (16, that's 4 years!!!!!!!) I had no friends that were within a half hour. Sure I didn't have the debt problems (kinda hard when you don't have money period) but I was still lonely. Last year I had the urge to commit suicide at least three times! But you know what got me through it? Sorry, not Heroclix. Relying on God. Only reason I'm sane now is because I trusted in him. So WHATEVER happens, no matter WHERE it happens, look up at the sky or ceiling or whatever and talk to God about it. If you hafta do that out loud, DO IT. It's kept me sane for this long. Show up at a church as often as you can. And whatever happens, STAY AWAY from video games! Those things will draw you in and you'll be even more depressed than ever. I'll be praying for you, buddy. (Oh, and actually reply to your own thread, lol)

[GoldenAge]

Originally posted by thugit
Which is a nice change of pace.

:angry: Why I oughta... :cheeky:

[lukebuchanan]

blaga---don't ask

[Pootzwacke]

Hey man, we all feel that way sometimes. I know it's incredibly easy to see things in the worst possible light when you're depressed. We all go through it, and it's not fun.

On a practical level - if you want to make a name for yourself on this site, and that's your biggest goal here, the easiest way is to just *respond* to lots of posts. Starting threads isn't always the best way to go, especially if you're trying to get responses. Look at it this way: if you're going to put the time into writing a message, which way is going to get it seen more - putting it in its own thread and rolling the dice, or putting it in a thread that already has 300+ people reading it? If your name keeps coming up in good threads, people will start remembering you and seeing who you are. Once people are more familiar with you, they might go out of their way to respond to your threads when they see them. Start slow, put in some time, post a lot. It can't hurt. I've gone from being more of a two-year lurker here to making a lot of good acquaintances just by posting a lot in the past month or so. :)

On a personal note, I've gone through some of the same struggles with depression pretty recently, based on some less-than-perfect circumstances and occurrences of late. It's hard to get through these rough periods in life, but it's a lot easier when there are people that you can talk to about it and that help get you through. I'd be more than happy to talk to you, lend an ear, and give what advice I can. The worst thing you can do is to ball up in your shell and try to go it alone. PM me and let's talk a bit. Hey, what do you have to lose?

Things may look bad right now, but for you to put this post up took strength and character. You're strong enough to get through it - but that doesn't mean that you won't need some help and support. Reach out to people, you might be surprised at the response you get.

Keep hangin' on! :)


-Pootzwacke

[aya99]

yup..:cool:

[DaLuvster89]

Charaxes - I recognize your screen name and have enjoyed your posts. :)

I know how you feel - I've been pretty depressed lately, too.
And sometimes I wish I was as "popular" as some of the other posters around here. A lot of threads I start get no attantion. So mostly I just lurk about and read more than I post anymore.

I will say this - you will probubly gain more recognition if you post something constructive, like possibly an article on some aspect of the game. Look at those names that are well known: azs, RavenProject, Shin Goji, CapAmerica24, thugit - they all contributed something to the site that is useful for all. (azs' figure reviews, RP's LE Reviews, Shin's Sentinal Files, Cap's VAS team, thugit's... um... Well, thugit just has a natural charm and charisma. ;) ) It's tough to find something to make your own sometimes.

Just with this thread you've gotten off to a good start, though. Many of the things you feel and are going through, others here have been through similar things, and you can see that the people here are all willing to give advice and a helping hand. Life ain't easy, and making a name for yourself here isn't always easy, either. Just hang in there, anjoy this site for what it is, and don't look to deeply into how others percieve you here - you can never really know the answer to that.

Hopefully something I said there was helpful. I think many others said the same thing only better...

[CapAmerica24]

Charaxes,

I'm sorry to hear of your plight...though I must agree with some others here, I sometimes wish I was still in my cool "bachelor pad" in my parents' basement. ;)

I don't think anybody that is considered "popular" on here could give you any specific reason on how to get people to respond to your threads.

All I can suggest is to keep posting away. I recognize your name, I've seen it quite often on the realms. Another good way to meet people on here is to use the chat room. On most nights, between 6 PM and 2 AM Eastern time there is normally 8-12 members in chat, we have a great time in there....give it a try.

CapAmerica24

[Charaxes]

Hey guys...thanks your the replies. But this is exactly what I didn't want...

However, to all who responded and PM'ed:

I had a really, REALLY bad day yesterday, and needed to vent. I called eveyone I knew, but they were too busy. I started to post about how people are baised here, and ended up rambling about how everything's wrong. Basically, I was depressed about my current situation, and it made me go overbroad on both subject. I know I'm here alot, and I know many of you, as well.

I know that I'm better off than alot of people. I have a roof over my head, and I have plenty of food to eat. In the grand scheme of things, I realize that I'm more or less normal.

Thanks guys. You all made me realize that life really ain't bad. It sure beats the alternitive...

To the one who asked what my name stands for (I think it was ro_gan, but if I'm wrong, forgive me), Charaxes is a small time Bat-Villain. If you want a more detailed explanation, let me know.

[Ro-gan]

That was me that asked Charaxes. Thanks.

I thought it looked familiar to me.

Glad to hear your mind is clear again.

[DarthDoom]

Originally posted by 1164
Life is hard, then you die. In between, there is heroclix! DOOM could not have said it better himself

[doctorfate77]

heh.

look at that.... I'm #44. youre already leaps and bounds ahead of my "One Piece Clan", LOL. I'll let you know when you outpost the "Mystics Clan", in aboout 3 posts?;)

glad youre doin better.

i'm not the most religious person in the world, but remember even if no one is posting, someone is WATCHING :)

[Silver Lantern]

For what it's worth I too wondered what Charaxes stood for, but since Ro_gan had asked I didn't bother. That's just another example of how people don't post sometimes (to not be repetitive).
Glad is going well man.

[Kid Zero]

Hang in there, Killer Moth, I have had similar problems in the past. Now, I mostly lurk and shill for Mandarin in his recent campaign to be Vice President.:grin:

[lukion]

life is what you make it brother! by the sounds of it you would like a bit more attention in life. can't demand it, you have to create a quality that will draw smiles and conversation to you. post intelligently and witty. only reason i looked at this thread was the title and the hulkster loves to do what he's told not to. i highly recommend getting some non web friends though. there is no substitute for talkin and seein a face. train, take your vitamins and say your prayers!

[CapSpalding]

HcRealms, for all of its great qualities, is very clique-heavy. I am not popular here (indeed, I have a few people here who would probably like to strangle me), I have not cracked into a clique, I have had very entertaining threads ignored beyond all reason. And you know what? I don't care one whit.

For the love of whatever god you pray to: DO NOT GET YOUR SELF-WORTH FROM THE INTERNET. If you don't have friends in real life, don't think that azs and thugit will fill that void in your life. Get out and make friends. If you are smelly and fat then take a shower and work out (not necessarily in that order). Change your life and treat this forum for what it actually is: a mild and ultimately unimportant diversion.

For what its worth, I scan by topic, not poster. the only "name" threads I always check out are azs' and RavenProject's excellent figure reviews.

[freakazoid_x]

You do have to get your name out there. Part of it is giving your threads a catchy title too. I mean I almost passed over this thread. Not exactly catchy. Try selling what you have to say with a cool title.

[Ro-gan]

Originally posted by CapSpalding


For the love of whatever god you pray to: DO NOT GET YOUR SELF-WORTH FROM THE INTERNET.

B-b-b-but... the Internet is my friend...

If you don't have friends in real life, don't think that azs and thugit will fill that void in your life.

But I can't leave my house until I hear what thugit has to say. I don't want to miss anything earth-shattering.

Get out and make friends. If you are smelly and fat then take a shower and work out (not necessarily in that order). Change your life and treat this forum for what it actually is: a mild and ultimately unimportant diversion.

Mild and unimportant diversion!?!

You're kidding, right!?!

Please say you are not serious!?!

There is life beyond HCRealms!?!

:disappoin :confused: :disappoin

[CapSpalding]

Originally posted by ro_gan
There is life beyond HCRealms!?!

Of course there isn't. Just trying to make the kid feel better.

[Supes]

Woo! Post #52!!!! Yeah!

Uh seriously (gives you the thumbs up sign and makes the best Phil Hartman impersonating Bill Clinton impression I can) "I feel your pain."

I was in a downward spiral about that time of my life and then I took a chance on something (basically college) in time I met a girl, got married, and now am buying a house.

Now if only I too could get someone to comment on one of my teams or my posts or anything I do beyond trying to help other people with rules and teams and comics trivia. Ehh.

It takes time, and guess what... sounds like you got a lot of living to do. As cliche as it is... it's always darkest before dawn. Turns out ... it's true.

One thing is for sure though... you've definately made an impact here.

[shak74]

i think the not getting replies thing might be caused by a couple of different things

a) basically if it drops out of the most popular topics someone would have to search to notice your posting. i dont know about everyone else here but sometimes the search engine on this site gives me and/or my computer fits, so i might be interested in the same thing as you or want to ask the same question but i cant find anyone else posting about it without my blood pressure going up, so therefore its easier to just post a topic again (especially if you just need an answer for something) so it might not be necessarily that anyone is ignoring you, maybe they just missed your post and had similar thoughts or questions

b) it might be an issue of time, i dont know then this site has the most traffic (i assume in the afternoon/evening?) cause it kind of depends who and how many people are on for whether or not postings get lots of replies. if you are posting at 3 AM on a weeknight then you are probably not reaching as many people as you would if you are posting in the afternoon or evening or on a weekend so maybe you need to kind of figure out when there is more traffic, post then then maybe you will feel like you got your point across and probably get more replies

just my thoughts...

[Gacy's Clown]

Dude, I've seen you post on here many times. I don't know you though or even recall if I've replied to anything you've said, but don't worry about it.
I don't know if I'm cool or popular or hated on here, but I just post and whatever happens, happens.
I'm going through a really tough time right now too (what's new), so hang in there and things will eventually work themselves out...usually for the better (even if it isn't immediately noticeable).

[Ro-gan]

Originally posted by CapSpalding
Of course there isn't. Just trying to make the kid feel better.

[Let's out sigh of relief]

You had me scared there for a bit. :surprised

Next thing you know you will be telling me that the UFOs that buzz my house nightly are fake.

[Charaxes]

To all who posted or PM'ed when this thread opened:

I just wanted to give you guys an update,

I'm finally back in school. And I'm doing better than ever (scored a 98% on my Correction exam Thursday). Being back in school really helped giving my life direction. Hopefully, I'll graduate within three more years, and start my life's work (whatever it's gonna be).

I still live in my mom's basement, but I'm looking to move out in Janurary or so.

My credit card debt is desreasing: my balance is now down to $500, not bad considering that at the beginning of the year it was at $1500...

My social life is improving as well. Through friends from school or work, I usually have plans at least once a weekend. However, I am still single, but I have decided that I should stay away from releationships until I get my life figured out.

I realize now that bad things happen, and its how you deal with it that defines you as person. I also understand that alot of the things that I let bother in the past really don't matter.

As for my dad, I still haven't had any contact with him. I think that this is for the better, because every time I speak with him, I just feel bad. I now consider him a "toxic releationship", and am wanting for him to get his priorities straight before a speak with him.

Also, to all of you that posted to this thread and/or PM'ed me. Thank you. I know that I said that I didn't want any reponses, but I really did. I was begging for reinforcement that I'm "normal". Anywho, thank you for taking the time for posting, and thank you espically to those who offered your thoughts and/or prayers during my time of need. You all have no idea how much it helped.

[Charaxes]

On a seperate note, those mods look awesome, ro_gan!

Boba Fett lives!

[CarlosMucha]

just read your post for 1st time, and nice to ear to all going bether in your life. That is very important, I dont have a life but someday I will again :)

[skeevo666]

Originally posted by Charaxes
I know that I said that I didn't want any reponses, but I really did. I was begging for reinforcement that I'm "normal".


Man, you're better than normal! You're one of the few, the proud . . . THE CLIXERS! :grin:


Seriously, it's good to hear that you're doing better. Keep up the good work!

[Rocket Ranger]

Originally posted by Charaxes
...And I'm doing better than ever...



To quote Han Solo: Great kid! Don't get cocky! ;)

(j/k)

Seriously, I'm glad you're doing so much better. Of course that doesn't mean your life is easy sailin' from here on out, but it sounds like you've taken some very important and very mature first steps. Keep it up, man! I don't know what the future has in store for you, but if you stay true to yourself and the principles you're trying to implement into your life, I think the sky's the limit in what you can achieve. Just stay the course, and remember, if the hard times come again, you can always come back and ask for more thoughts and prayers. This ol' Realms might be full of crotchety, grumpy older players and hothead, young upstarts, but, in the end, it's actually a great place to come when you really need encouragement or just someone to talk to.

You are so much more than just an anonymous user name. Never forget that!

[Gacy's Clown]

Glad to hear you've got things turned around and going in the right direction. I'm still in the process of doing this myself. Today could very well be a huge make it or break it day for me. We'll see though. Like everything else in life, I'm not getting my hopes up yet...:ermm:

[BadAxe1]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by CapSpalding
[B]
Hate to co-opt Cap Spalding's post, but he said almost everything I would've.


HcRealms, for all of its great qualities, is very clique-heavy. I am not popular here (indeed, I have a few people here who would probably like to strangle me), I have not cracked into a clique, I have had very entertaining threads ignored beyond all reason. And you know what? I don't care one whit.
[/COLOR] I agree on all counts

For the love of whatever god you pray to: DO NOT GET YOUR SELF-WORTH FROM THE INTERNET. If you don't have friends in real life, don't think that azs and thugit will fill that void in your life.
Least of all Thugit. Unless you like to be insulted avoid him at all costs.

Get out and make friends. If you are smelly and fat then take a shower and work out (not necessarily in that order). Change your life and treat this forum for what it actually is: a mild and ultimately unimportant diversion.
Do you play clix at local venue? Sad but true this what my social life mostly consist of these days. I have developed some good friendships that way.

For what its worth, I scan by topic, not poster. the only "name" threads I always check out are azs' and RavenProject's excellent figure reviews.
I think most everyone scans by poster on here. I don't have a specific Realms clique, and probably would'nt want one. I've always found it much more fun to irritate the poular crowd by doing my own thing and not caring a lick if they like it or not.

[Kid Zero]

CHaraxes,
The important thing to remember is that While you might not actively seek a mate, but don't turn down the option if one presents itself. You don't want to be out of school before you start dating or looking at least.

[jedah_s]

it's good to hear that things are going better for you.
life is a series of peaks and valleys.
i'm not by any means religious, but i do believe that good things will eventually happen to good people.
it's just a matter of time.

and if your looking to get in on threads with lots of responses (besides this one ;) ), join in on the fun in dtm's toc's.
it's probably the only place i'm partially known.
and i'm probably not even liked.
but you'll get replies in there :)

[JesseJames]

Originally posted by jedah_s
it's good to hear that things are going better for you.
life is a series of peaks and valleys.
i'm not by any means religious, but i do believe that good things will eventually happen to good people.
it's just a matter of time.

and if your looking to get in on threads with lots of responses (besides this one ;) ), join in on the fun in dtm's toc's.
it's probably the only place i'm partially known.
and i'm probably not even liked.
but you'll get replies in there :)

DUH!

No one likes you, you're old, you're balding, and you defile the TOC threads with the smell of fish.

:p

[JesseJames]

you smelly, balding, old, fishy man, you.